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The definitive sign of a settled adult isn’t certainty about what they want, it’s the absence of panic when they don’t yet know

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The definitive sign of a settled adult isn’t certainty about what they want, it’s the absence of panic when they don’t yet know
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Longitudinal research on adult development consistently finds that psychological well-being in midlife correlates less with the certainty of one’s stated plan than with the capacity to sit with unresolved questions about it. The data, in other words, does not reward the person who has it all figured out; it rewards the person whose nervous system can tolerate not yet knowing.
This runs counter to almost every cultural script about what a settled adult is supposed to look like. The script p

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