🦄 Startups & VC 5d ago · Lachlan Brown

I stopped offering my opinion in family group chats six months ago, no commentary, no reactions, no jumping in to smooth things over, just to see who would notice my absence, and the silence taught me something I had been working hard not to know for about twenty years

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I stopped offering my opinion in family group chats six months ago, no commentary, no reactions, no jumping in to smooth things over, just to see who would notice my absence, and the silence taught me something I had been working hard not to know for about twenty years

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Silence inside a family is not the absence of information. It is the information. Most of what you need to know about your role in a family system is hiding in what happens when you stop performing it, and the easiest way to find out is to just… not show up for a while and see who clocks the empty chair.
That’s the abstract version. The concrete version is that six months ago I stopped contributing to my family group chat. No commentary, no reactions, no measured paragraphs to defuse whate